Healing from sexual abuse is a process. The more understanding you get about sexual abuse and your story the easier it is to work through the process. There is never a reason for sexual abuse. It is always wrong and hurtful. You never caused it nor are you responsible for it. It was the unsafe hurtful people in your life that betrayed you. Victims often feel shame for participating in it and for their behaviors that followed the sexual abuse. Sexual abuse often leads one down a dark slippery path and causes us to do things we regret. It is time to forgive yourself and put your energy into healing. The victim is always innocent. You are not a bad person. Start believing it.
The first step to heal is to share your story with a trustworthy person. You need to break through your shame and fears and allow another to hear your story. It is said that we are as sick as our secrets. If you do not have a safe person in your life please contact us and tell us your story. Maybe you have told someone but it backfired and they did not believe you or give you the support you needed.
We are proud of you for sharing your story with us for we know how hard that is.
In our resource section read the booklet called “How Do I Heal?” In it you will find the steps to healing and answer most of your question. If possible we encourage you to attend one of our recovery groups. If you are not ready to share in a group, talk to one of our counselors or mentors. In time you will be ready for a group. Healing happens in a group setting more than in a one on one setting. If joining a group is not possible, email us and take advantage of our online support. Healing takes time and effort but your freedom and health are worth it. Healing can be a lonely road and that is why we are here for you! You deserve a good life. Go for it!